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"I may appear strong on the outside,
but I'm a terrified kid on the inside." |
We adoptees have had to be strong from day one in order to survive the great loss of our first family. We may present ourselves to you and the world as strong, confident, self-assured. Underneath is the wounded, voiceless child.
The best thing anyone
who loves an adoptee can do for an adoptee who appears strong is to ask God to
show whether the adoptee's strength is coming from health or hurt. Here are
some tips to help discern the difference between health or hurt:
- Wants to always be in control of situations
- Rootlessness -- wanders from job to job, spouse to
spouse
- Perfectionism
- An "I-have-it-all-together" attitude
- Fear of intimacy
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